Coping

Coping is our human approach to solving problems. For problems that are readily solved, for example fixing a flat tire, we cope by taking direct and effective action on the problem. In this case we decide how best to repair the tire, we repair or change the tire, and go on our way. The work is primarily external to our self. If the problem is prolonged or unsolvable, perhaps because it involves a permanent loss such as a broken relationship, chronic illness, or the death of a friend, then the focus of our coping is emotional. This may involve grieving or reappraisal or simply taking time to accept and integrate the change and restore ourselves to a new equilibrium. Here the focus of our work is internal to our self. Most problems are a blend of these extremes and require both problem-focused and emotion-focused coping efforts. Read more...


No comments: