How to Deal With Your Teenager (for Parents)

1. Change your expectations.
  • Studies show that the frontal cortex of the brain does not completely develop until a person is well into their twenties, sometimes early thirties. The brain of a teenager is a work in progress. The frontal lobe of the brain is the seat of what researchers call the "executive functions." It's the part of our brains that helps us to plan, control our impulses and reason.[1] It's tempting to treat our teenagers as though they are capable of reasoning, making well thought out decisions, and controlling their impulses. But the truth is, they're not. Their brains are in a critical stage of development and they need you to help them through this part of their life. Instead of expecting them to act and think like an adult, expect them to be somewhat out-of-control and help them with it.
2 Stop treating them with suspicion.

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